By now I thought I would be living like the black Carrie Bradshaw. Dating men, having a few failed relationships, non-conventional but successful career, and a group of friends to experience it all with. You know the usual dreams of a young adult. Let’s just say my predictions were all off. In school growing up we were always told, ‘you can do anything you set your mind too’, ‘reach for the stars’, and blah blah blah. What nobody told us was how to do it and the many obstacles we would face if we were even bold and ambitious enough to take on the hard journey.
The Present
Fast forward to now, after getting fired from a job last year I was at for 2 years (long story I’ll tell for another day), I knew I had a lot of changes to make. Crazy as it may sound, the moment it happened I actually felt more of a relief than anything. Going somewhere 5 days a week, 8 hours a day and absolutely miserable was not the way I envisioned my life and career. I worked hard in school to graduate with my Bachelor’s degree in 2013 and I realized about 6 months into the job that it wasn’t for me but I couldn’t seem to find anything better. Or maybe I didn’t try hard enough to find something better. Application after application, interview after interview, no luck. I knew something had to change but I didn’t know how. I got promoted twice within those two years and still was unhappy with everything. I’ve never been the one to hide my feelings so slowly but surely I think people could tell I just didn’t want to be there and the work showed.
The moment I got called in the office, I knew what was coming. I’ve been called into enough offices to know when something is wrong. Afterwards I walked to my car like ‘well, what now?!’ I couldn’t even be mad because I knew this is what had to happen in order for me to continue on my journey of happiness. After listening to countless Joel Ostein ministries, he would say, “God sometimes has to push you out of situation when you were to afraid to go.” Well hello my time had come!
Refocusing
I knew this was time to put focus back into what I truly wanted to do in my career and what would make me happy. Luckily my tax refund was deposited the same day (coincidence right?) and with a little bit in savings, I knew I could finally change some things. The goal was to re-evaluate the direction of both my personal life and career.
You know when life doesn’t go your way and you began to question everything. Whether your dreams are silly. Whether the life you always desired was only a desire, not obtainable.
I decided to change my thought process and realize that all of this has happened for a reason and I could either let it get to me or become better than I was before.
Changing the Path
Having that time off really gave me the opportunity to change everything I had been doing. I began working out everyday, setting my goals higher, and working on my self. I also wanted to put my focus back into my blog where I can be more open about my journey, experiences, and sharing more of my fashion with everyone. My career is still a work in progress with a new job I’ll be starting soon, 2018 is already looking up.
I put together a list of things, some of which I did, to make positive changes in your life and continue on a path of reinvention for 2018.
• Change look whether it’s hair or personal style
• Switch jobs or careers
• Move to another city or state (even another side of town can make a difference)
• Work on self to figure out wants and needs. Set goals.
• Let people know who you are and what you can do. Use social media like LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook page, etc. to promote self.
• “Network your way to your dreams”. Read this on how networking helped me in 2017.
• Staying positive. Easier said then but I always told myself whatever hardship I was going through was only temporary.
• Daily affirmations to keep self motivated
Wearing
Thrifted sweatshirt | Amazon booties (similar options below)
